Homeschooling Tips and Advice for the Anxious Parent

– It will be okay. It will. Because you care. You care enough to be motivated to figure this out. You will look up what you don’t know or find someone who does know to help you out. You are not going to fail your kids. It will be okay! And you can do this!

– Unplug from the internet and social media for a day or two or three. Breathe deeply. Meditate or pray. Walk in nature. Take Epsom salt baths. Play with your kids today. Swim or run or exercise in some way. Get in the sun. The school decisions can wait a day or two while you get centered and ready to tackle them with peace instead of anxiety.

– Literally the ENTIRE WORLD will be doing a pretty lousy job educating children this school year. This is the ideal time to try this out! Your best will be good enough. In fact, your kids will likely thrive academically more than they would during this crazy year at school. Take the pressure off and try to enjoy this time with your kids. People over products; remember that.

– Remember that you aren’t committing to homeschool for the rest of your children’s school years. You are only committing for one year (or maybe less)! That makes this decision hopefully feel a little less weighty.

– You don’t need to find the perfect curriculum. There is no such thing. If what you choose isn’t working, find something else! (So don’t spend a ton of money your first year!)

– You don’t need to cover every single thing the schools would cover. Keep up with math, do reading and some writing every day. Explore the world through books and experience, and your kids will be just fine.

– You do not need to recreate school at home. You are now a one-room schoolhouse. You are a one-on-one tutor. Take advantage of all the perks of that situation. Don’t feel pressure to act like a “teacher” and set up a “classroom.” Be you.

– The details are just details. You’ll get that figured out in the next month. And then you can start on the real business of living a life of learning with your kids.

– It’s okay if the first day of school happens and you don’t yet have all your curriculum! I PROMISE. You are on your own timetable now. Read books together, go on nature walks, watch documentaries, bake cookies, and watch the stars together for the first week or month while you make final decisions and order things.

– YOU DON’T HAVE TO BE THE EXPERT. You don’t have to be the wellspring of knowledge. You don’t even have to be the teacher for most things! You will be the facilitator, the guide, the mentor, the co-learner. And it will all be okay!

– Once you decide on curriculum, do not look at other options! Stay away from Pinterest! It is not your friend! The grass is not always greener…. Keep your peace by putting blinders on.

– Don’t compare your child with other children or your homeschool with someone else’s. Who cares if your dishes are piled up and their house is immaculate? Focus on why you are doing this!

– If you’re only doing this for one year, remember IT’S ONLY ONE YEAR. There are many elementary years. Expect them to learn and progress, but they won’t learn everything in one year. So keep your expectations realistic. They will know something one day and forget it the next. Expect it. Go with it. Exposure and repetition.

– If you need hand-holding because you are afraid of messing up, there are plenty of curricula out there with teacher’s guides that will tell you exactly what to say and do!

– Reading books on educational philosophy can help bring a sense of peace because you start to understand and believe in the reasoning behind what you are doing. Instead of just following what someone else has told you to do, you begin to have confidence in yourself to do what you believe is best for your children. (Book suggestions coming in an upcoming post!)

– If you are picking and choosing individual subjects instead of buying a boxed program, keep it simple at the beginning! You can always add more later. You want to be successful at the start instead of in over your head!

– What you might not realize is that homeschooling can actually lighten your load. When you are freed from having someone else dictate to you what to do and when to do it, you can focus on your individual child. You can meet HIS needs at HIS pace with curricula and methods that work for HIM. He no longer needs to be compared to other kids his age. He is a unique gift, and maybe he will start to see that.

– Find a local homeschooling friend to talk to. Share your fears. Ask questions. Look through her curriculum. This is usually the point where people begin to believe they CAN do this.

– If you are a Christian/Catholic/believe in God, buy the audio book Teaching from Rest by Sarah Mackenzie and listen to it on repeat. It is only $5. You will thank me!

– It’s going to be okay. Your kids are going to be okay. You are going to be okay.

Thank you to Jennifer Porter, Tiffany Hernandez, and Brienne Sessa for helping me come up with this list!

Poetic Knowledge by James S. Taylor – Book Review

BOOK REVIEW
Poetic Knowledge
by James S. Taylor

Learning in the poetic mode is not about studying but about doing, participating. It is pre-scientific, for the beginner, not the specialist, so the specialist, if he was never allowed to play there first, must go back to it in order that he may know his subject at a deeper, more intuitive level. It is about connection with reality through the senses, both internal and external. It is a form of knowledge, it is intellectual, but it includes the emotions. It values the whole, living thing, not the dead parts. It is about concrete experiences with reality either in actuality or vicariously through some medium.

It is your little girl watching a frog in your backyard pond, not dissecting it to learn it’s parts. It is your teenager understanding intuitively about a lever because he played on a see-saw for hours in his childhood or used a pitchfork to move hay on your farm. It is knowing the nature and the essence of a horse because you spend countless hours with them, not memorizing it’s anatomy.

Poetic knowledge is learning a language by speaking it, not by picking apart every word in the sentence, parsing and diagramming. It is feeling music inside you, dancing to it, singing, understanding tempo and pitch because it’s a part of you, not memorizing sharps and flats and chords and scales. It is living the life of a historical figure vicariously through a high-quality, engaging book.

It’s why our kids should spend loads of time outdoors in nature, playing in trees, on swings, with building materials, watching living things, staring at the night sky. It’s why our kids should listen to, dance to, and sing all types of music, hear poetry daily, create their own works of art in imitation of what they’ve experienced, play pretend, and generally have the liberty to just BE in the real world.

Poetic knowledge seems to be the key to motivation because it is about what is REAL and we are all desperate for reality. Connection and wonder are the driving forces. Love is the anchor.

Poetic knowledge synthesizes, brings together, integrates. It looks at the whole, the essence, the nature. This type of knowledge was considered completely valid in the ancient and medieval world, but has lost its validity in the modern mind, replaced by the rigidity of the scientific method which has laid claim to be the king of all forms of knowledge.


What an excellent book! I would put it up there with Norms and Nobility by Hicks and A Philosophy of Education by Mason as the triad of top educational philosophy books I’ve read (With Consider This by Glass as a close runner-up!).

It was a hard slog at the beginning, but once he got to Descartes it really started picking up speed and the last couple chapters were a breeze. I do wish he would have given more concrete examples at the beginning of the book instead of the end in order to “ground” the abstraction. That seems like it would have been more in line with the thesis of the book!

Highly recommended for all educators, those interested in epistemology, or anyone dissatisfied with the reductionistic mindset we’re all swimming in. It’s an eye-opening book, and I’ll be thinking about the ideas for a very long time.


Some favorite quotes:

“This position of poetic knowledge has no quarrel with the realm of the expert – the opera star or the physician – but it does hold that there is a proper order of knowledge… beginning with the poetic; without the observance of this order, one can “produce” pianists who can perfectly play the notes of the great composers without playing the music, and doctors who treat diseases but not the whole person who is ill.”

“Of course, there is real effort required at some point in learning, and often great effort is required to learn something well. But this is a situation that arises after the experience of wonder – if it arises at all – and the exertion for this kind of learning is usually in the student on the way to becoming a specialist or expert. And, even in the case of the specialist, the true scientist for example, there would always be the memory of the original love of the thing about which he first wondered.”

“A large problem with [Descartes’s] Discourse is that not everything is known clearly and distinctly as the Method exclusively calls for. As a matter of fact, there are different kinds of certainty; one, for example, in ethics, another in mathematics. Even with the most rigorous application of deductive reasoning, certain subjects of human inquiry do not admit to the same degree of certitude. To know that 2 + 2 = 4, indubitably, is not the same kind of knowledge as in knowing that a definition of justice is giving to each his due; nor is either one of these like the certainty I have that someone loves me. To demand that each field of inquiry, that all knowledge, yield a high degree of demonstrative certainty is, finally, unreasonable. The subject (object) of study, of course, is the determinate factor, and only mathematics, as Descartes holds, is capable of demonstrative certainty; whereas common experience allows for much that is the result of probable reasoning.”

“Sooner or later, it is all reduced to “facts.” This [modern, reductionistic] approach bypasses the contemplative nature of knowledge, leaving the student disconnected from his nature and the nature out there. Alone, though armed with Facts, such a student is likely to become arrogant with a sense of dominance over nature when the universe is seen more and more as an obstacle and problem to be conquered instead of a companion reality to be learned from.”

“Lecture appeals mainly to the intellect and even more so, to the extent lecture is prepared and planned, relies less and less on the intuitive connections within the memory of the speaker. In the end, lecture of this kind eliminates the surprise and delight in learning. The analogy of a traditional jazz band, improvising on a familiar theme, was used by the professors [at the Integrated Humanities Program] to describe their spontaneous conversations.”

“Basically, then, scientific education explains; critical education dissects; poetic education, by way of the integrated senses, experiences. Therefore, the position of the teachers of the IHP was that in the order of knowledge, experience comes first, but experience of two kinds, direct and imaginatively participatory. Because Dewey and the more empirically minded educators denied or ignored the metaphysical and transcendental dimension of the senses and emotions, only actual experience of things for them brought knowledge, and even this had to be a direct experience that involved manipulating the environment in some way to wrench knowledge from it. But both direct and vicarious experience are poetic under the philosophy of IHP, insofar as they remain uncritical and content to begin to learn in ‘wise passiveness.’”

“When a sentence is broken into its parts for the purpose of learning how to read and write, a child may become a whiz at identifying nouns, verbs, and adjectives, but the integrity of the language as that living thing capable of communicating living ideas is violated. Scientific grammar is studied, if at all, at the end of years of exposure to the literature of one’s tradition.”

“Historically important dates and names are not only necessary to know when learning history, but for students these can also be enjoyable, if those precise things are left embedded in the stories of history…. Textbooks of history should be avoided, for these are far too abstract for young minds, books about books, usually, that merely summarize events.”

“When a flower is taken apart and examined as pistil, stamen, stem, and petals, each part is seen exactly and a certain curiosity is indeed satisfied; however, curiosity is not wonder, the former being the itch to take apart, the latter to gaze on things as they are. Curiosity belongs to the scientific impulse and would strive to dominate nature; whereas, wonder is poetic and is content to view things in their wholeness and full context, to pretty much leave them alone. Stated as simply as possible, science sees knowledge as power; poetic knowledge is admiratio, love. In other words, take the students outside, regularly, and turn even a backyard into a laboratory of the open fields. Once again, textbooks at this level are a burden, they get between the student and the things of admiration. Let them make their own notes and pictures, poems and stories, about what they have seen. Biology is the observation of living things, not dead things.”

“For the desire of the real to rise up, there must be something real to arouse it, and gadgets, computers, and gimmicks used to hold attention, all taking place in classroom environments technologically insulated from reality, are simply parts of the generally unlovable atmosphere of modern education – unlovable because they are all efficiency, utility, and no longer beautiful.”

The Teenage Liberation Handbook by Grace Llewellyn – Book Review

BOOK REVIEW
The Teenage Liberation Handbook
by Grace Llewellyn

This is a challenging book for me, which is why I keep it on my shelf. When I feel like I’m veering too strongly toward mind-numbing rigor in our homeschool, I grab this book and it helps swing me closer to center. I’m not sure I’d ever have the courage to hand it to my child, though!

I do feel that since I’ve discovered Circe Institute and others who are pursuing an understanding of medieval classical education (as opposed to the neo-classical style that is currently so popular) I am no longer swinging back and forth on the pendulum between unschooling and what I had been calling classical (which really just fed my drive to be the best). I appreciate what unschoolers are saying in their departure from current educational practices, but I’ve never felt fully comfortable with the ideology. Unschooling seems like it contains within it the potential for breeding unhealthy pride and individualism, and I’m seeing more and more the value of humility in all areas of life. I believe there is much wisdom to be gained from thinkers of the past and that there is something of a canon of knowledge that is important for me to impart to my children. With that said, though, this is still an eye-opening read, and I would recommend it to anyone who has kids in or out of public school.